Everyone Wants To Go To Heaven...But Not Right Now!

Who wants to go to heaven?  This was a question asked by Bro. Lito, a Couples for Christ (CFC) head who facilitated several talks in the Christian Life Program (CLP).  As expected, the participants raised their hands with gusto.  That included me of course.  We all wanted to go to heaven, who doesn't? Then he asked another question, "Who wants to go now?" Obviously we were all stunned. Is this guy a psycho? Will he kill us? Not one raised his hand (at least none that I saw)  Then the momentary tension was eroded away by laughter.  As funny as the situation was, it was a profound question all Christians should ponder on.

I suppose many Christians are like me.  I hesitated and was unsure if I am ready to leave everything immediately when God calls.    It reflects how attached I am to my mortal life - too attached it is embarrassing.

A Profound Lesson From Fishermen

He said to them, "Come, follow me, and I will make you fishers for men."   They immediately left their nets, and followed him.  Mathew 4:19-20

If I lived in the time of Jesus and he asks me to leave everything and follow Him I would probably walk away thinking He is crazy.  After all, who is this nobody demanding so much from me?  But Peter, Andrew, James and John were impressive. They left everything IMMEDIATELY and followed Jesus.  These four fishermen were the first disciples and without hesitation they followed.  Likewise, many other Christians throughout history heard the call and put their faith before all things.  Would you leave everything right now to follow Jesus?

An Invitation For All

Are you ready to get up and go to follow God right now? Or should we wait for your favorite telenovela to conclude? Is Clash of Kings holding you back because the Dark Knight event is 2 hours away and you haven't upgraded your castle and troops? Perhaps you haven't fully enjoyed your new iPad or 42-inch LED TV? What is holding you back to follow Jesus right now?

We are lucky to worship God freely, have the Bible as our guide, and other Christians willing to share the Good News.  We have it easy compared to the early Christians.  Yet amid all these blessings I (and many others) still find it difficult to leave all the worldly possessions.  I can easily argue that my family needs me, my child needs me, my rose bushes will not survive without me.  In the guise of logic and love, I would decline the invitation -how dense can you get?  But as it has been pointed out time and time again.  It is not I that they need.  It is God.  That simply shows that I am arrogant enough to think I can take His place.  Moreover, I am not truly ready to enter the Kingdom of God. And with a shameful heart I admit to these imperfections. And yet, in spite of this blasphemous attitude, God welcomes me with open arms and awaits my acceptance.  And the invitation extends to all.

Pray For The Unwilling Christian

Would you be willing to go to heaven right now?  As in right now, you don't even have to finish reading this.  I could easily say yes to impress others out there.  Regrettably, I am not strong enough nor mature enough let go.  And chances are many would postpone this majestic opportunity as well.

Brother Lito put forward a question directed not just to me but to all Christians. Do you want to go to heaven RIGHT NOW? I applaud those who can truly say yes and is willing to leave everything immediately behind - even those they hold dear in this world.  I really want to go to heaven.  But I need more than just my own strength to be willing to go RIGHT NOW.

I ask that you pray for me and for all those like me.  Pray that when we hear God's call we will stand up and go without hesitation. Pray that the Holy Spirit reside in hearts and direct our life and decisions.   Pray that our faith, though little will grow and will never falter.  Pray that I and all others like me truly find peace in God's grace.

How To Raise a Prayerful Child

I just recently accepted the importance of prayers in our daily life.  Although many nowadays frown at the idea of what seems to be talking to one's self, I find it comforting and motivating.  Being a Christian, prayers are part of our lives.  Yes, I just realized how important it is to living a true Christian life and I hope that my child lives a prayerful life as well.  In spite being a newbie at this, allow me to share how I intend to turn praying into a lifestyle and not as a chore for my daughter.

Start Praying With Your Child

It may be out of your routine but there is always a starting point.  Prayers are often done by many when they are in a pickle.  But as I have learned, it should not be the case.  First and foremost, praying is to worship God.  We pray to give thanks, we pray to comfort us when we have something weighing upon us and when we need forgiveness.  Everyday and every minute is a time to worship, praise and acknowledge how incomplete we are without God.

When your child sees you praying, they will appreciate it more.  When you involve them in praying, they become comfortable with it.

Start Simple Prayers

Prayers need not be complicated orations.  And it fascinates me to hear my daughter pray before our meals.  She thanks God for the cheese in her sandwich or the ice in her juice.  I suppose adults can learn a thing or two from kids' prayers.  The way they pray comes from the heart.  It may be simple (perhaps too simple for adults to understand), but it is honest.  I believe that when children talk to God this way, they build a stronger relationship.

When we build a habit of communicating using simple words with God, we become more accustomed to just conversing with God like a friend.  After all, God is our friend.

Make every opportunity a praying opportunity

There was a moment when my daughter felt scared because she was left all alone in the room.  She called out for me and when I answered back she calmed down.  I told her to call Jesus when she is afraid.  Now, when she feels afraid she would say "Jesus help me please.," or "Jesus protect me please."  Moments like these help children put their trust in God.  I should know, it works for me.

Every moment is a time to exalt, seek strength, or just find comfort in the presence of God.  When we put our trust in God every moment, we learn how beautiful it is to live with God in our hearts.

Prayer does not come naturally for many people.  It sure did not come easy for me.  And the truth is, there are still times when I forget to pray.  But we are all work in progress.  And it would be great if we start early with our children.

You Can't Get Too Much Kisses From Your Child

Recently, my daughter promised to kiss me 100 times.  And surprisingly she actually pecked my cheek 100 times.  What is even more fascinating is that she told me that 100 kisses were not enough to show how much she loves me.  In spite of the aching face muscles from puckering for 100 times, she started to kiss my cheeks again.  Of course I can not in good conscience let my daughter go through that arduous exercise of showing her love through kissing.  But I knew that she loves me even without the kiss.

What started out as a review on counting turned out to be a lesson on love.  It is just wonderful when children show their love to their parents.  And a kiss can truly be special.

Children have a funny way of showing their love.  What seems ridiculous to adults is actually their sincere way of showing their affection.  And in the simplest of gestures, true love seems to echo out.  So, the next time you kiss your child, do it lovingly.  For them, the simplest of gestures are the greatest reflection of love.

Child Discipline Starts With Mom And Dad

Parents should start child discipline early.

My wife and I have a degree in child development.  But I assure you, raising children is not as easy as the books say.  One parenting hurdle is child discipline.  Of course everyone of us want to have kids with the right values.  But before you hit the books or check out the all-knowing google, know that discipline starts with the parents.

Having a family with great values require focusing on the fundamentals.  And I am talking about the discipline of the parents.  It is a huge commitment to raise a child so get ready.  If you are not ready for the responsibility then you are in trouble.  Likewise, it is essential that both mom and dad are clear on the boundaries of discipline.  Child discipline strategies vary from person to person and from generation to generation.  I grew up at a time when spanking kids are a daily occurrence.  In contrast, my wife and I do not believe in spanking.  So this is a huge decision between parents.  What child discipline strategies will you employ?.  Lastly, and probably one of the hardest to do is to stick with your strategy.  When one parent deviates from the plan, the child may get confused.  This is really evident when one parent does one thing while the other does the opposite.

So child discipline is a critical part of your lives as parents.  Make sure you build on a strong foundation in order to create a stronger family.

A New Start With The Christian Life Program

It is not enough to be called a Christian.  As this distinction requires a lot of responsibility.  Unfortunately, some turn their backs on the responsibilities of being a Christian.  Unfortunate still is that I am one of those who neglected the duties.  But things are looking up even for those who forgot what it means to follow Christ.

In a half-hearted yes, I agreed to attend the Christian Life Program in our parish.  I did not have the courage to bluntly say no to my wife as she really wanted to attend.  And when the time for the first meeting drew nearer, I became a little more uncomfortable.  But I said yes.

For the past several weeks we have been attending and learning what it means to be Christians.  Wow, it is a lot of work and a lot of sacrifices. Who knew it took so much to be called a follower of Christ?

Call it epiphany or just some sense knocked into me, I begun seeing myself a little more open to the spiritual side of life.  Moreover, attending the meetings gave me some comfort.  I eventually looked forward to attending instead of just watching TV -and Saturday night TV is usually great.

I suppose this is a start of something even more beautiful.  Better late than never.  And when I look back, I am glad that I gave that half-hearted yes to attend the Christian Life Program.

Kids For Christ: Getting To Know God While At Play

Yna in a contemplative state?

The summer of 2015 is special for the family.  This was the time when Yna joined the Kids For Christ community in our Parish.  Of course at 4 years old, she was looking for some fun.  And what better way to enjoy than learning what it means to be a Christian.

Even if where just once a month, she would anticipate joined ng and participating in the activities.   In the process of learning what God is all about or what being a Christian is, she made new friends.  Raising our daughter with God in her heart is a fantastic way to build character and values.  She is a work in progress as we all are.  But it is definitely easier when the right scaffolding sa really in place.

The summer of 2015 was the time when Yna was formally welcomed into the Kids For Christ community.  And it is something we are truly greatful for.

Who Hit My Car?

Two nights ago a loud crash woke me up in the middle of the night. I looked out the window and saw a white vehicle near my car.  It drove away so I just did not think much about it.  When I woke up the next day a huge dent and scrapes on the side of my car just said hello to me.

First you might wonder why I did not write about it immediately.  The thing is, I might just write too much profanity that I'd be banned to write again.  So I took some time to just calm myself down.  Yup sometimes I takes that long to just mellow down.

So what do you do if you hit a car in the middle of the night?  Sure, you might not want to wake up someone.  But to drive off like nothing happened is just wrong.  He or she could have left a contact number.  Stick a calling card under the wiper or something.  Or he or she could have informed the guards on duty about the accident and left a contact information.  I hate it when people are not accountable for their actions.

OK, ranting aside, I just hope no one got hurt when the driver slammed on my car.   And yes, I would have wanted a way to contact whoever hit my car.  I hope this does not happen again.

Durian Pie: Yuck or Yum?

Durian is not for everyone.  Either you like it or you don't - it/s that simple.  Earlier today a neighbor of ours gave us a durian pai and I love it.  I actually ate a quarter of it in just one go.  And I'm stopping myself from finishing the whole thing.

I've tasted different variations of this famous (infamous) fruit from candies, to ice cream.  And now It is my first time to eat it as a pie.  Although it is not as pungent as the fruit, it still is undoubtedly the fruit many love and hate. The sweet and creamy texture of the pie thanks to sugar and milk helps tone done the very strong scent and taste of the fruit.  The crust also helps balance the strong flavor.  I suppose ample care was done to balance al the flavors and textures.

Thank you ate Girlie for the surprise from Mindanao.  I can personally attest to having enjoyed it.

So the verdict is in:  Durian pie is a yum for me.  How about you have you tried Durian?  Are you one of those who love it or hate it?  If you do, then Durian pie is probably a good way to enjoy this fruit.  Otherwise, you'd just stick to the good 'l apple pie or something less exotic than this one.

Happy eats everyone.

Beginners Guide to Failing Like a Professional

Is there really no room for failure?

When was the last time you failed at something?  Not just the little “oops” but the really humongous blunder that made you think about packing your things and moving out into a hermit’s cave.  Well, too bad that happened.  But really bad things catch up on all of us.  It’s a question how you can fail like a professional!

One thing I learned from years with top executives and successful individuals is that they all fail.  In fact, we all do.  Not that I want to crush your hopes for success as a team or as an individual, but this is a reality we all have to face.  It’s time to take all the drama out of failing and put in some

Admit your shortcoming

The most important step in failing like a professional is to admit your failure.  More than just self-pity it is admitting to the imperfection of humans.  Moreover, it is to acknowledge that fact that something has to be done.  And it has to be done quickly. 

• Stop the illusion that nothing wrong happened
• Stop pointing fingers and start owning the responsibility
• Apologize – especially to those who are affected

From Failure to Learning

Until we realize that our mistakes are opportunities to become better, we will remain in a dismal and horrible state of mind.  Of course we do not want to fail.  But when we do, it is an opportunity to learn from our mistakes.

• Identify what went wrong
• Determine how to rectify the error
• Learn ways to prevent future mishaps

Act Immediately

Failures derail our plans - some to a greater extent than others.  But regardless of how they impact our plans, we have to act appropriately and immediately.  Many small failures are neglected and grow to become headaches in the future.  Acting immediately allows quick response to potential catastrophes.

• Assess the damage
• Determine the impact of what happened
• Employ corrective measures
• Put in place preventive measures

We do not like to fail.  But when we do, the professionals know how to properly handle the situations while the rest simply sink into self-pity and despair.  Worse, others just turn a blind eye to their responsibility. Stop being pathetic and start facing failures like a professional.

Amazing Kissing Quick Facts

Anthropologists still have not agreed on how kissing started in human history.  But kissing has become an accepted form of expressing one's self.  Here are some interesting facts about kissing that you may not know.

 1.  Tilting To The Right Is Commonly Preferred

Many films depict couples kissing with their heads tilted to one side.  more than just a cinematography style, people actually tilt their head when they kiss.  The direction of choice for most is the right.  If you are used to kissing your partner with your head tilted on the right, try going left for a surprise.  But chances are you'll move your head towards your preferred right side sooner or later.

2.  It Takes Effort To Kiss

Kissing is a facial workout.  And depending on how passionate or active you are when kissing, you can tire yourself out fast.  So the key is to relax and enjoy the connection.  This is not an endurance run so take it easy.

3.  Can You Handle More Than 58 Hours of Kissing?

Now this is a feat worthy of praise.  remember the 34 muscles that get used when kissing?  Well, this is that endurance test that I was talking about.  Guinness Book of Record awarded the title of the longest kiss to Ekkachai Tiranarat and Laksana Tiranarat from Thailand in 2013.

4.  Royalty Bans Kissing

In a bid to stop the spread of disease, King Henry VI banned kissing.  It is a logical step since kissing transfers at least 10 million bacteria from one person to another.  Of course, not everyone followed this rule.

5.  3-Second Kissing Limits

It was a conservative times then.  If they new how long kissing scenes are done now, they'd probably walk out of the theaters.

6. Have You Reached Your Kissing Quota?

Of course this is just an estimate.  You can go beyond this quota.  Just remember that every time you kiss you share more than 10 million germs with your partner.  but who cares, it's fun right?

7. Kissing 3,500 Years Ago

This is how long kissing has been around.  And chances are, people earlier than this time have experimented on kissing.  Suffice to say, it's been part of human history and chances are it will remain part of our future.

Kissing is a way to show our emotions.  From the time we were born we have been kissed by people we love.  And throughout our lives people will share special moments with us with a kiss.

"Dear Nanay"

"Dear Nanay"

by: Khai

Siyam na buwan mo kong dala-dala,

Hanggang sa iluwal mo ang una mong prinsesa (chos!) 

Alam ko po na paminsan matigas ang aking ulo,

Pero kailanma'y saakin ay hindi ka sumuko.

Siyang umaakyat sa entablado tuwing ako'y may karangalan,       

Siyang pag walang laman si Sikmura, gagawan ng paraan. 

Siyang 'perpektong anak'  ay kailanma'y hindi hinangad,

Ikaw, at ikaw lamang ang kanyang numero uno'ng prioridad.

Kailanma'y hindi ka nawala sa puso ko,

Biruin mo, pati ang pinakamaliliit na bagay, pinaaalala mo.

Sa iyong mga kamay ko nararamdaman ang 'forever' na pagmamahal,

dahil tinuruan mo kong maging malakas, huwaran, at BANAL

Tinuruan mo kong pangalagaan ang aking pangalan.

Maging sa mga una kong hakbang, ako'y iyong sinubaybayan. 

Siyang dinadaldal kapag walang nakikinig sa aking mga drama. 

Pati  ba naman sa pag s'stalk kay crush, kakonchaba pa kita! :)

Nag iisa ka lang sa sansinukob, 

Regalo ka pa ng tadhana sa buhay ko!

Sa pag-ibig ma'y maligaw ako ng landas,

alam kong may nanay akong nagmamahal sa akin ng wagas! 

Palagi ko po tinatanong sayo kung mahal niyo ko, 

palagi kong kine'kwestyon kung proud nga ba talaga kayo.

Ngayon, napagtanto ko na kayo pala dapat ang ika'proud 'netong batang 'to

kasi ginagampanan mo ang tungkuling bigay ni Papa God sayo.

Ang propesyong ito'y wala sa kolehiyo,

Hindi kinakailangang pumasok pa sa opisina, hindi sume'sweldo. 

Walang 'break time - break time' sa lengguahe na ito. 

dahil ito ang trabahong panghabang buhay na titingalain ko...

Ang pagiging 'Full time' Nanay ko. :) 

Touch Therapy For The Heart

The best way to be remembered is to leave a lasting mark on one's heart.  Sounds too cheesy?  Well, the way people affects us has a huge impact on how we remember them.  Just imagine the last person that annoyed you?  Was it during one of your drives or a pathetic customer service representative.  More than what they did, it's how they made you feel.  Likewise, when people make us feel good, we associate something positive about that person.  Like it or not but we often want some touch therapy for our emotions.  After all, we are creatures with a lot of emotions.

A smile goes a long way compared to a frown.  A kind word can cheer up someone's day.  A helpful gesture can ease up the burden of others.  More than just following social graces, this ia bout making a mark on someone's heart.

What was the last kind gesture you did?  Make someone else's day a little brighter.  Perhaps you can brighten up your day as well.

The Scary Steps In Life

I find myself faced with challenges.  Often they are trivial while others scare the hell out of me.  I suppose everyone feels threatened or unsure of something at one point or another.  But unless we face these fears we can never truly move forward in life.  Surprisingly, these scary points in my life are the ones that tend to strengthen me.  Some would argue that psychology comes into play.  Others point to a higher power.  And still others attribute the big leap to trusting one's gut.  Well, regardless of how you see it, life is full of scary steps.  Whether we take it or not all depends on our own willingness to face the reality of uncertainty or at least gulp down the dread that is eating our insides.  But to those who eventually take that step into the unknown or uncertainty, much is revealed.

Life is full of challenges.  But unless we play the game we will never know if we will succeed.  I am thankful for the species long before man that tried something different.  As the first animals crawled out of the ocean or when our early ancestors first took their steps upright, we all have the capability to make a tremendous impact on life.  Who knows, the next time you step out of that door, you are making a huge leap for all mankind - or at least just for your own success.

A True Love's Kiss

It is a wonder how the bond of a mom and her daughter can easily show love.  Gestures as simple as a kiss becomes a testament of true love.  My daughter and my wife have a special bond.  This unique and strong connection is evident everyday and it grows constantly.  I suppose nothing in this world can out-compare this love that they share.  And it gives me comfort to know that they share this special love.

Love Thrives Even in the Harshest Place

We all have the capacity to love.  Some would think otherwise for some reason or the other, but I believe that we can all sow the seeds of love.  Even when the circumstances are dire and dismal, we can still nurture love to grow.  Many people have found love in the harshest winters or in the most barren summers in their lives.  And it is this love that strengthens them to face the adversities head on and come out victorious.

It is during the bleakest of times in our existence is when we truly need the assurance of love.  And when we cling to it and put our faith in it, we can find ourselves breezing through what may seem futile.  When circumstances seem for nothing, we can turn to love with a steadfast conviction to survive and thrive.  

We ought to love especially during the harshest times of our lives.  We all have the capacity to love. Just plant even the smallest seed and let love grow.

Paint A Picture of Your Life

If you were to paint a picture of your life how would it look like?  Is is a portrait of the one you love?  Or is it a picture with vibrant colors?  Perhaps it is a gloomy a desolate scene?  How you paint your life all depends on how you see your life right now.  It may not as what others may perceive.

We all have the power to paint a beautiful life regardless of the struggles that we may face.  For the optimistic at heart, these challenges provide the backdrop for something really spectacular. For the pessimist, it would probably be the foreground or the focal point of the piece.  Regardless how you would like to paint your life, it is you who chooses the colors and the brush strokes.  In the end, we make whatever picture we want.

Life is full of colors - we just have to see them in a different light.  Perhaps that way, you can paint one that that truly shows who you are.

Choose Your Future

You have great power over your future.  Your decisions no matter how small or no matter how insignificant you might think it is play an essential role.  Unfortunately, it is easier to blame others or circumstances for the what ever state one is in.  But we hold paramount influence on what happens to our future. When we begin to see our own role and become accountable, we can direct our future to where we truly want to go.

Of course it may not be as simple ad it may sound.  But our own actions influence things that is yet to be.  Be accountable for your actions right now so that you can help shape your future.

To the Brave and Fallen

44 brave Filipino police officers proved their worth to be called members of the PNP- SAF.  This elite unite trained to serve and protect.  And they did.  With their lives on the line, they braved the treacherous undertaking to serve and protect.  44 brave Filipino police officers proved their worth to be called heroes.

In spite facing insurmountable odds, each faced the challenges with a steadfast heart.  With unwavering conviction to fulfill his duties, they laid down their lives.  May your sacrifices be forever remembered.

I weep not for the 44 souls that gave their lives but for their families and friends who have to endure the loss of a loved one.  I weep not for the brave officers who willingly gave their lives for peace but for a nation plagued by atrocities.

The last sentence of the Philippine National Anthem sums it up:

“Aming ligaya nang pag may mang-aapi ang mamatay ng dahil sayo.”

Not many could have sung this line as proudly as you might have.  And when we sing it, we will remember the price you had to pay to serve and protect our country.  Perhaps one day, more Filipinos will learn to be as brave and as convicted as you were to serving our country.

To the 44 brave officers, you make me proud to be a Filipino.

Do Good, The Clock Is Ticking

You make your life worth living.  You choose to be happy.  you choose to be faithful.  You choose to do good.  Of course life is not as simple as black and white.  But we all have the capacity to decide for ourselves.  Are you living the life that you choose?  a life that is your own?

Our lives are finite.  We came to be and soon or later we will cease to exist in this world.  Some may argue that we persist even after death.  While others may raise an eyebrow with the idea.  suffice to say, Our time on earth is limited.  Our lives are a mere speck when we compare it to how long the universe has existed.  What are you going to do with this life?  Will you live a life dictated upon by others or live one that is free?

Make your own mark in this world.  when all is done and you have to part with this world, all you have left is the legacy that you leave behind.  The memories of your existence will keep you alive.  Do good and and leave a lasting mark for all to remember and for all to be inspired.

Do good right now.  The clock is ticking.  It may end sooner than you think.

How Have You Lived So Far?

Where has life taken you?  What have you accomplished s far?  what is it that you still want to reach?  Have you reached out to others?  What is your purpose in life?  

I suppose not everyone contemplate on these questions.  Some would ponder for a moment and leave it hanging.  On the other hand, some are in continuous search for the answers.  Yet, others still think that it is a waste of time to dwell on these.  But the fact remains, we all live for a purpose.  What it is may be different for every person.  But sooner or later we have to think about our lives and how we live it.

Living is a gift.  And we have to return the favor in one way or another.  examining one;s life not just opens up philosophical questions.  But opens practical question about how we go about our lives.  Our decisions and our choices all make up what happens to us.  

How have you lived so far?

Love The Earth

When I think about how insignificant my life has been compared to what our world has seen it humbles me.  When we think about it, humans have been on the planet for a fraction of the time the earth has existed.  Moreover, the modern world has seen much of its its development only in the last few centuries.  Yet, we have torn away much of what earth has given us in these last few hundred of years.  Are we too arrogant to say we rule the world are are we just oblivious of what we are doing?

Love earth and perhaps we can exists longer.  Love earth and perhaps we can really change lives.

Now Is Always A Better Time

Of course this Chinese Proverb speaks directly about planting a tree and that is good.  But this suggestion proves important in other avenues of our lives as well.  What we can do now is best done right now. But if you fail to do something when it it should be done, we still have the opportunity to rectify the mistake by acting right now. 

Whether it is procrastination or some other powerful force, you have to act appropriately and immediately.  In many instances the outcome may not be seen at once.  But like missing the chance to plant a tree, effects are drastic and turning back time is not an option.  

Your Choices Right Now Dictate Your Future

Our lives are full of choices.  In essence we dictate how our lives would turn out.  Most of our choices involve how we react to situations.  Our perceptions of what goes around us and more importantly how we choose to to react to them allows us to open doors that will guide us into the future.  What ever door we choose to open and enter will affect what we find on the other side.

The choices we make are more important than you think.  At times it may seem trivial for you but the smallest things in your have a huge impact on your life.

Love Can Change Your Life Forever

Do you remember your first kiss?  Do you remember how your heart skipped a beat every time you were with the person you love?  Or how you can't sleep because you just can't get enough of thinking about your love?  That's the high that love provides all of us.

More than just an emotion, love allows us to open up and connect with another.  It provides reason for us to wake up everyday and greet it with gusto.  Love offers us the reason to enjoy life and become free.

Some people search their entire life for that one person.  And when you do, bliss is a gross understatement of how you will feel.  I have fallen in love and continue to do so.  I met her on June 13, 1996 in a Spanish class back in college.  I could still remember the beige blouse she wore.  It had brown flower prints.  She wore light blue jeans to match her top.  How can I ever forget that day.  It was the moment when my life changed for the better.  I found a friend and a partner.  And until today, she remains my very best friend.

Love can change your life forever.

True Friends Can Communicate Even In Silence

I have met a lot of people and not all of them have become really close to me.  It is nice to have people around to help you and have fun.  But you can count on true friends to stick around when the situation is dire.  And I have my share of great friends who continue to provide support even when things go bad.

True friends are quite hard to come by.  People in our lives come and go.  Those who stick longer in spite of the dismal situations are those worth keeping forever.  I remember a very close friend of mine who called me when her mom died.  Her family was leaving abroad when the her mom passed away.  As much as I wanted to fly over to her I could not.  In stead we stay on the phone the whole night just talking.  Although there were dead silence in between, We kept the phone to our ears because we know the other person is at the other line.  Jennifer has her own family now and still lives far from where I stay.  We rarely get to talk nowadays.  But it was a surprise when word got to her that I had to get a CT Scan to rule out a Tumor in my brain. She communicated with me to reassure me that everything was going to be OK.  And it did.

In spite of the long lull in our communication we continue to remain friends - the best of friends.  And I know that she is there when I need her.

Even in silence we can communicate so much with true friends.

God's Unrequited Love

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

John 3:16 (NIV)

God loves you even if you are a sinner.  That in itself is humbling if you take a moment to contemplate on it.  God pours His love for us even if it is not reciprocated.  That is how much He loves all of us.

Just imagine yourself loving someone and not being loved back.  How would you feel if this is the case?  It may seem hopeless to love someone who does not love you back.  But our Lord has immeasurable love for all of us.  And even if we continue to disobey Him and falter, we can always count on Him.

All He asks is to love Him back and Love our neighbors.  

Write Your Woes Away

Let your emotions run free by writing them.  Some find it relaxing to just write what burdens them.  This sounded ridiculous several years back.  In fact I never really like writing.  It was like opening up to the world the deep emotions that I had.  I felt vulnerable and that did not appeal to me. However, I slowly came ot love writing.

Start small.  And when I say small I mean really small.  I started out just smelling out the emotion that I felt.  it can be anger, frustration, love, or anything that fills you up.  I then slowly made sentences describing more about the emotions I felt.  It was painful at first because I was out of my comfort zone.  Soon after I begun writing longer.   I tried to analyze my situations, gave myself reminders, established goals and strategies to achieve them.  Soon after I was writing with more confidence.

Of course it is up to you if you want to publish it on the net.  But if that is still too much, a journal would be the best solution.  Writing is therapeutic - at least for me it is.

Send Our Positive Ripples To Change The World

One person can change the world.  One idea can spark a revolution.  One voice can tumble down empires.  But who will make that first move?  Are you willing to make that scary step towards change?

We are all connected and how we influence others has a tremendous effect on all of us.  Even the smallest of gestures can ripple across distances.  This is why we all have to work towards what is good and just.  Our actions can affect others.

Will your actions ripple into the hearts of others and become the catalyst for positive change?  Your actions can be that little spark needed to move forward.  Send out positive ripples and change the world.

Someone To Lean On

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest

Mathew 11:28 (NIV)

"Lean on me when you are not strong...." Does that sound familiar?  Well, apart from the song, it is a sensible line and advice.  We need to depend on others whether you like or else.  And when you put your trust on the right person you can face any challenge.

Some turn to religion as I have.  God is a source of refuge and strength.  I lean on Him for guidance and more importantly the strength to face the difficulties.  And I must say there are a lot.  And when things become dire, there is no one else who can give everlasting comfort.

Do you have someone to lean on when you are not strong enough.  If you have none.  there is always god to turn to.

A Child Knows No Fear When Dancing

Children dance their heart out.  This is a behavior that I see in almost all kids I meet. Their carefree attitude allows them to sway their bodies into whatever music they want.  In fact, even without music, they can find the right tune to swing their bodies to.  But as we grow older, we lose this carefree attitude and succumb to social expectations.  Don't do this and don't that in public.  It is no wonder why many adults act like they have a huge stick up their you know where.

When was the last time you just danced your heart out?  Children do not mind if their dancing technique is off or when other people think they are ridiculous.  After all life is fun.  And they are the ones that are really enjoying life without the shackles of societal expectations.

sure, there are important norms and social decorum to follow.  But we must never lose the child in all of us.  When our hearts want us to sing, then sing.  Or when our hearts want us to dance, then dance.  Of course there is a place for everything.  But never forget that the songs play in our heads and move our hearts.  Dance to your heart's content and enjoy life.

Creepy Hospital

Do you like getting scared?  Well, i rarely get scared except if it involves my daughter or wife getting in trouble.  Otherwise,i am not easily scared.  However, there is a hospital near where I live that just gives me the creeps.  Don't get me wrong, it is a new hospital but the feeling is just to ominous.

I am not sure if you believe in ghost.  But this place shouts Come visit us see the ghosts.  Although I never really liked going to hospitals because it has lots of sick people, this one just makes me want to drive another 5 kilometers for the next medical facility.

Hospitals, cemeteries, asylums and old houses are great backdrops for horror stories.  I bet sooner or later, legends of the paranormal will spring from this place.  

Ridiculous Health and Fitness Ideas and Suggestions

I've listened to many health and fitness ideas since I was young.  Some of which I believed because someone who is supposedly more knowledgeable told me so.  But now that I am able to verify information through the internet and other experts, I've become more aware of what is real and what is not.

I remember people telling me that if I started lifting weights it will stunt my growth.  So obviously I did not lift weights.  I'm still short in spite refusing to lift weights when I was younger.  I should probably put more trust on genetics than my friend back in high school.

There was this person who told me to eat peanut butter right before going to the gym.  It was supposed to provide me the extra energy for the workout.  The guy usually eats half a jar before working out.  He grew muscles.  But he eventually developed diabetes.

During a judo training, one member suggested that we should not drink water so that our bodies will not crave for it during competitions.  Of course I did not follow that suggestion.  The rest were nauseated within several hours of the training.

Some people just have weird ideas about health and fitness.

Enslaved By My Phone

When we think about slavery we often picture people shackled and forced to do labor for others.  But as I have realized lately I am a slave.

Technology has given humanity convenience and efficiency.  Moreover, it provides us means to accomplish tasks we might have difficulty doing on our own.  And the simply gadget like the phone has evolved into a powerful tool - magical if you're living a few scores back.

But it is this same technology that has driven our lives.  And Unknowingly we bow down to its  every whim.  It has taken control of our lives.  we can't seem to accomplish anything without it.  From a mere communication tool it has become an indispensable gadget.  It can be said that it is an extension of our being.  Many of us can't seem to function without it.  Likewise, we become anxious without our phones next to us.

But I am changing this reality.  Our phones are merely tools and they should remain as such.  No matter how advance they are or how integral they are to our lives, we should not be slaves.

The Art of Making Love Letters

I grew up at in a time whern twitting, Facebook updates and Skype are unheard of. Although texting was already a major breakthrough in communication, the technology available to us was still outdated.  I suppose this is a blessing as I was able to write a lot of love letters to Grace, my wife.

Today, technology has taken over.  Where has writing love letters the old fashioned way gone to?

Nothing beats taking a pen and paper and writing your heart out.  Of course you can do the same thing with a computer using MS Word but it takes away the personal touch.  Putting your emotions into writing is an intimate way of sharing with someone a special bond - love. Your heart orchestrates what your hand will write.  Your pen is your brush and your paper is your canvass.  And you paint by opening up your heart.

Don't let the art of making love letters die. Grab a pen and paper and and start writing how much you love the person.

Put Positive Thoughts Into Action

Put positive thoughts into actions.  That is easier said than done.  But life is never meant to be always easy.  Rather, it provides challenges to make us stronger and wiser.  It all starts within each of us to trust in ourselves.

Positive thoughts allow us to see beyond the problem.  Moreover, it helps us gain a better perspective of the things to come.  Positive thoughts are powerful tools that we need to utilize everyday of our lives.

We can choose to be miserable when faced with a predicament.  But the problem will still exist.  ON the other hand, if we approach it is a more positive way, we gain better understanding of how to solve and.  Furthermore, it strengthens us along the way.

A Spectator in Your Own Life Story

Are you too busy to notice that life is passing you by?  Well, it is time for you to take it easy.  Sure, the project, work, task or whatever consumes your time is important.  But there are things in life that require your full attention.  For one, life itself!

There are only 24 hours in a day and most of it are spent sleeping or at work or at school.  the rest is usually spent contemplating on how life is too short and that you do not have enough time.  However, there is time and you can make use of it.

Life is a beautiful journey.  Do not be a spectator in your own life.  take control of it and live life right now.

Healthy Eating Is A Matter of Taste

Do you have a sweet tooth?  Does a juicy stake get your attention?  How about about the allure of fast food, does it call on to you?  I never really ate healthy until I met my wife more than a decade ago.  But I am thankful that I made the shift towards healthier eating...at least what I think resembles healthier eating.

I don't have the palette for many healthy foods since they usually taste bland or too earthy.  Well, that was a misconception I had back then.  But to my surprise healthy foods burst with amazing flavors.  I suppose healthy eating is just a matter of taste.

Choosing the right cuts in meats, proper cooking techniques and even the right spices can turn healthy dishes into masterful creations whose flavors will explode in your mouth.  I was proven wrong that healthy food tastes bad or lack the taste altogether.

It is never too late to make the switch to healthier eating.  After all healthy living requires healthy eating.

How Many Opportunities Have You Missed?

The fear of making mistakes often paralyzes people to take the right step.  We create the opportunities that will bring us success.  And when one just happens to show up on your door, one must take it.  In many instances, such opportunities may not present themselves again.

Success in whatever endeavor we choose depends greatly on how act on a particular moment.  And when the moment passes us by without making move, we will never know whether we can succeed or not.

Don't Just Watch People Die

Cancer continuous to kill people.  Although there have been advancement in medicine cancer patients continue to suffer.  Families and friends continue to carry the weight of having lost people they love.

Fighting cancer takes more than  just taking pills or subjecting one's self to excruciating procedures.   Cancer is fought in all battle fields from cancer research laboratories, to schools to every home where people are fighting for their lives. Moreover, everyone should enlist in the fight against cancer.  From cancer prevention campaigns to cancer support groups, everyone must pitch in.  In addition, cancer treatment goes beyond medicines.  Emotional healing, support and counselling are needed.

What is beautiful is that anyone can start the fight against cancer right now.  In our own little way, no matter how insignificant it may seem, we can slowly win.

You can help fight cancer or just watch people die.

We Used To Laugh At The Idea of Bottled Water

I remember the time when we laughed at the idea of buying bottled water.  We scoffed at the concept of water being bottled and sold as commodity.  Why should we buy such a ridiculous product?  we can drink straight from the faucet!  And even if you are uneasy with drinking straight from the tap, there are water filters that you can use.  We had one installed in our house when I was younger.  But now, bottled water is a huge industry and does not seem to be slowing down.

Is it because water from the faucet is not potable?  Well, according to the authorities it is.  But if you've seen the condition of the pipes that are used to run water from the filtration plants to the houses, you'd think twice before drinking from the tap.  It is fascinating to think that our planet is covered by a lot of water.  And what's even more amazing is that in spite of this, we are willing to pay a lot for bottled drinks.

Every drop counts and at the rate pollution and destruction is happening, I am afraid that sooner than later, we will find our selves without water to drink.  In fact, many places on earth have scarcely enough water for the day.  It is truly ironic to live in a planet covered by water and yet there are people who are dying of thirst.  

Teams Require Individual Commitment

I've never been a great basketball player.  Perhaps it's the lack of interest in the sport.  Or perhaps it is the lack of height required to be asked to join a team.  I suppose it is the height.  However, like any other team sports, basketball intrigues me.  Not just because it requires members working fluidly as one but because of the commitment required from each player.

I've been in numerous teams in my life.  Whether it is on a competition or a corporate project, teams require solidarity.  Of course I never always agree with everyone on the team.  But when a decision is made, I stick to it and fight for it.

This commitment asked from the team members is paramount to the success of the organization.  When one falters, the whole structure collapses.  When every person assumes his role and undertakes his duties, it is symphony playing in harmony.  No matter how good the team may be, it all boils down to the commitment of every person to take responsibility.  Great teams are made great by exemplary individuals working as one.